我和他终究还是回不去了
热1已有 458 次阅读 2015-04-18 20:29
好久没有更新日志了，这段时间的确也是发生了不少事儿。自从那天他莫名奇妙的表白了以后我的之间是真的变了，现在的我甚至不愿意接他的电话，看他的简讯，总觉得是他破坏了我们之间最重要的兄弟之情.
那天晚上他喝多了，给我打电话说了很多一份夹杂着无奈、心疼、难过的真心告白再次在我耳边响起，那句：不要在让我爱上你的时候，你却把我推开！说的那么伤似乎这一切都是我造成的。
我和他说：其实你不应该做一个gay，我不希望你走这条路，你应该有自己喜欢的姑娘，就像以前一样，我不应该是你的另一伴，你的另一半应该比我优秀，比我好！
后来我们又说了很多，最后他只说：既然已经回不去了，那就接受我吧！等我！
挂了电话以后百感交集，怎么了这么搞笑，为什么发生在我身上的事儿总是这么无语！然后大概十点多时候他又来电话：下来，我在你家楼下，我想见你，如果你不来我不走！
除了无奈我觉得没有别的词更能表达我当时的状态和情绪，擦，这种老套的戏码居然真的会发生！我穿上衣服下楼，看见他在小区的健身器材那里坐着，他看见我起身说：我知道你会下来！我说：哥 别玩了行么，我们真的不合适，当哥们挺好你咋就非要迈出那一步！你回去吧，人你也看见了！我转身要走，他拽住我把我抱怀里，然后说了句：我也不知道怎么了！就走了…
我回家又是一夜不眠，我究竟要怎么处理这段感情！后来的几天他没有什么消息，我也不想去问，直到五天前，我们公司发生了一些变动，突然给我们员工降薪然后加入多条任务考核，导致公司所有员工集体都辞职了。而我也加入了这离职大浪潮中一员，我非常闹心因为又要开始找工作，生活工作压力突然变得重了起来！身边的朋友也安慰我怕我闹心，消失了几天的他也给我打了电话，告诉我别闹心，上火，然后其他的却只字未提最后说说要请我吃饭。
我说：没事儿，你放心吧，那个……饭我不去吃了没啥胃口！
他又嘱咐我几句就挂了电话.电话刚挂没多久，我就接到了小谷的电话，他说：咋的了听说失业了，来来出来吃吃饭，开心开心说不定就好了。
我说：不去了，不爱动弹
他一口嫌弃的语气：快快别和我装了，快过来好几个人呢，吃不下去一起吹吹牛逼，快来你不来局子就不开始啦啊
我一听说大家就问：大家都谁啊？
他说：哎呀没谁就我 我对象 老谢
我听了舒了一口气：奥 那个……东哥呢
他说：奥 他好像说有事儿
我听完以后觉得还好，就问了时间地点晚上去了。到了饭店我才傻眼了，丫的被骗了，一进去我就看到了他了，这让我走也不是不走也不是。简直就是尴尬的要死，原来他妈的也有这么玩儿人的。我坐下以后问：不是说你不来么？
他笑了一下说：恩，本来有事儿的，后来推了嘿嘿 咋的现在都不愿意见我么
我说：呵呵，没有，就是问问。然后我拿起水杯喝水再也没说什么，大家似乎看到我脸上的不悦，小谷赶快嘻嘻哈哈的来打个圆场。之后的20多分钟里我如坐针毡，心里有一种被骗了，掺杂着尴尬还有不悦。大家一起吃了会我去趟洗手间，给好朋友发了一条短信，让他一会给我打电话解救我。然后没过多一会我就成功的脱身了，坐在回家的出租车上我突然有一种好轻松的感觉。没一会就接到一条简讯，是他发的：不愿意看见我么，今天是我让小谷组织的，对不起骗了你，我只是希望你能开心，别把我推开，月，我是真的想和你在一起，或许我不是你喜欢的类型，或许你觉得我破坏了我们之间的友情，但是我也是心不由己！
看见这短信我真的不想去回复了，直接删掉了。说句实话我不想让他变成一个gay，我觉得他应该像以前一样和一个女孩子交往，而我和他也像以前一样好哥们好朋友，还有就是我和他在一起没有一种心动的感觉，和他在一起更多的是一种好朋友之间的感觉，当然现在的我们连那份友情可能也不在了.
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If you truly value him as a friend, and do not want to lose him as a friend, you could try to reach out to him and tell him, in person, with unambiguous terms that you just want to be good friends but no more, at least not at this time. Try not to mention anything like asking him to fall in love with a girl instead - he is a grown-up, he knows what he is getting into. I know it's kind of uncomfortable and even suffocating at the receiving end of too much unwanted feelings, but as a good friend to you, he hasn't done anything to deserve the total avoidance as it seems, again, provided that you do value him as a friend; consequently a more diplomatic way to deal with your friend would be to sit down with him and reiterate the fact that you value the friendship between the two of you but do not want to go any further, at the moment.
In other words, put yourself in his shoes: do you wish a friend that you have developed feelings for to shun you like you are a plague, after your declaration of fondness? Or have him tell you that you should go out with a girl instead?
Obviously, though, it's not your fault that he fell for you, nor is it his fault. But it would be utterly impractical to wish him or tell him to be straight. Maybe he never was. Treat him gently, with mercy and compassion. Hang out with him just like you did before, but always with a group of friends. You might need to have the same talk with him again and again before it finally sinks in for him that you are not interested in courtship.
Again, all this assumes that you do indeed want to preserve the friendship and therefore it is worth investing the time and energy of this whole process of you letting him down gently. Otherwise, if losing a him as a friend does not bother you a bit, you should just cut him out of your life - he will wake up to it one day and get the message.